15 Questions to Crush Relationship Hypocrisy
Caleb Breakey - Wednesday, February 26, 2014
“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” — Matthew 7:12
1. Would you want your other judging you first and foremost by your physical attributes?
2. Would you want your other judging you for the things in your past?
3. Would you want your other telling you what you want to hear instead of the truth?
4. Would you want your other to pressure you into making a commitment before you’re ready?
5. Would you want your other acting as if he or she had it all together in life?
6. Would you want your other lusting after others or mired in pornography?
7. Would you want someone to sexually seduce your other or play with his or her emotions?
8. Would you want your other to not care about your relationship with Jesus?
9. Would you want your other to make you think more of this life and little of heaven?
10. Would you want your other to hinder you from seeking God first in everything?
11. Would you want your other always relying on you to be the spiritually strong one?
12. Would you want your other to speak little of the things of God or to pray sparingly?
13. Would you want your other to always choose what was best for him or her—instead of you?
14. Would you want your other to pursue a relationship without the intention of marrying you?
15. Would you like it if your other showed little interest in your interests?
How to Crush Relationship Hypocrisy
To crush hypocrisy, you must stop judging your partner’s past. Stop just saying whatever you think he or she wants to hear. Stop trying to seduce, get physical with, or toy with the other’s emotions. Stop rushing the relationship. Stop trying to appear flawless. Stop lusting after them, fantasizing about them, or indulging yourself in pornography.
Look at any signs of hypocrisy in yourself to help you choose what’s best for your other—and ultimately you.
What you can do right now
Think of all the intangibles you wish your other would one day be to you (i.e. loving, pure, selfless). Then be those things to him or her. Think of all the intangibles you wish your other wouldn’t be to you. Then resolve not to be those things to him or her.
We are not the exception to your own standards. Instead, we should make ourselves servants to living out God’s standard
to our special other.