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Playing the dice game Farkle with Brittney's family, my seven-year-old brother-in-law was rolling like I'd never seen. Not only had he set a new record of points made in one turn, but he kept defying the odds by rolling for even more points—again and again.
The look on his face cracked us up. He was loving every minute of it.
We warned him: "Timmy, if you don't roll a one or a five, all the points you've got so far will just go away."
He rolled again and got more points.
We urged again. "Timmy, your odds are not good if you roll again."
But without a thought, the dice shot out of his hand. No one. No five. Bust. And he burst into tears.
We all laugh about that story to this day.
In relationships, some of us like testing the odds. We put ourselves in potentially damaging situations because we want to know whether or not we can handle them. But just like rolling the dice over and over, there's a high probability for failure.
If you test the odds once and succeed, you'll want to test them again. But this time you'll want to test them in a more dangerous context. And if you manage to pass that test, you'll try for something even harder.
What's worse is that as you continue beating the odds, you'll gain confidence. A voice will tell you that you've aced the test once and can ace it again. It will tell you that you've built up a sort of immunity to failure. But probability promises that you'll eventually roll a dice void of ones or fives.
GET AWAY FROM DANGER
Stepping a little closer to a cliff will never magically extend the ground beneath your feet. If you step, you fall. It's inevitable. Resist the urge to test the odds. Your other needs absolute safety, not a flippant roll of the dice.
Unless you have someone mentoring you already, it's up to you to recognize areas of danger in your relationship. Don't go somewhere if you predict temptation. Don't stay somewhere if your conscience is on red alert. Run. Get away from the danger.
Don't roll the dice.