We were created to be addicted—glued—to the person we have sex with. But just to one. And not until we're committed by a marriage covenant. Or our hearts get hurt. — Dannah Gresh
During my 2 1/2-year separation from Brittney, I'd periodically meet with her dad. One story he told me was that of the slope.
When you sled down a hill of fresh snow, you don't go very fast. The snow isn't packed yet. It's fluffy. But the more times you sled down, the slicker it becomes. And by the end of the day, you're shooting down the hill like a torpedo.
Brittney and I had grown so emotionally attached that it wouldn't take much to push us all the way. In other words, if we kept growing closer it would be very difficult to avoid sex before marriage. And even though I didn't agree with him at the time, he was right .
What is your emotional and physical status with your other right now?
- Sled the hill once? Translation: You're safe and should discuss how to stay safe.
- Sled the hill 5-6 times? Translation: You and your other are in purity danger.
- Sled the hill for days? Translation: Get help. Right now. Call people you love.
If you're just beginning your relationship, you're in a great place to discuss how you can give each other what's needed most in the realm of physical boundaries. If you already have regrets, it's vital to commit yourself to purity right now so you can stop taking what isn't yours.
Not just because you want to be a "good Christian." But because you want to truly honor God. Don't let the issue linger another day. It will only get worse.