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If you’re thinking to yourself, I’ve screwed up way too much to ever have a beautiful romance, please stop.
It hurts to bring up past sin and failure with the next person you begin a relationship with. It may even be too much for the other person to handle. And that hurts. It makes you want to bury your past deep in your soul and never speak of it again.
Don’t succumb to that. What’s happened in your past has happened. You may not be proud of it, but now isn’t the time to hide what you’re ashamed of. It’s time to let your mistakes shape who you are today.
Don’t let your past consume you. Instead throw yourself on Jesus, shower in his grace, and move on practicing the love of Christ.
God uses the weak, not the strong; the broken, not the whole. Just look to Scripture: Paul committed multiple murders. Joseph suffered physical and mental abuse. Samson womanized. Rahab slept around. Elijah entertained suicide. Jonah ran from God. Jacob lied.
Your past doesn’t disqualify you. If anything, it makes you more prepared to be used for him. That doesn’t mean you should aspire to sin more. It simply means you’re never too far gone.
Regret and remorse are going to try to make you feel like you’ve blown your chance at a beautiful romance.
You haven’t, friend.
You’ll have unique challenges and struggles to face, but we all do. The fact that you must tell your next boyfriend or girlfriend that you’ve slept with someone isn’t all that different from a virgin who is chained by pornography, lies, or a lukewarm relationship with Jesus. All of these sins will hurt you and your other to a greater or lesser degree. All of these sins will play a part in whether or not the two of you move for- ward in the relationship.
But they do not end God’s amazing ability to bring two messed up people together
and make a beautiful relationship that pleases him until death do you part.
You are a new person in Christ. Your sins are nailed to the cross, and when God looks at you, he doesn’t see how many people you’ve given yourself to. He sees Jesus.
So confess your sins to God, own up to your past, and let his beautiful grace empower you to start giving your other what he or she needs most instead of taking what you want now.
But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me (2 Corinthians 12:9).